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Your Problem-- Yesterday I caught my best friend and my boyfriend kssing. My best friend still denies it, even though I saw her! Now my boyfriend is mad at me because I am "falsely accusing" him. What should I do?
My Advice-- You need to confront both your boyfriend and best friend that you saw them kissing. Ask them both why they are denying it, chances are they will say they didn't want to hurt you, then ask them why they did it in the first place. Make them realize it hurt you! Chances are your boyfriend is acting mad only to make you say sorry and forget what HE did. If you feel in your heart you can trust them again and forgive them, then that is your choice, but remember this, you want a boyfriend and best friend you can trust! not ones who will hook up behind your back. Plenty more fish in the sea for a best friend and boyfriend! Hope this helps! Good Luck! <3
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Your Problem-- There's this guy I've liked ever since the second day of school because he wasn't there the first day lol back to the point. I keep thinking about him and want to tell him I like him but I'm too quiet and shy. He's always going out with someone though which sucks. My friend told me that he likes me and stuff but idk what to do.
My Advice-- My advice is to try flirting with him a little bit, try getting him to notice you more, and when he becomes single, tell him you like him, or get your best friend to. trust me, telling him is much better than not knowing how he feels. even if you don't get the outcome you want, that's just more reason to tell him, because you don't want to love someone who doesn't feel the way you do. don't spend your life waiting on him to make a move, half the time they feel just like you and wait for YOU to make the move. Talk to him more, get to be good friends, get over your shyness and quietness a bit, wait till he's single, and tell him how you feel. You'll never know how he feels until you tell him how you feel =]
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Your Problem-- My boyfriend and I have been together for 5 years and I was REALLY REALLY REALLY happy until about
3 weeks ago. He has started controlling me. Telling me he doesn't want me to go hangout with my guy friends or talk to them on the phone or anything to do with them. My guy friends are getting agrevated at me and I think I might be pregnant and I want him to be like he used to be
and get in a father type way and get ready for our baby.
My Advice-- Some times all guys need is a little self assurance. Tell him HE is the only guy for you, and that all those other guys are just friends! Try to tell him how much he means to you, he needs to hear that. Also give him the accasional "I love you." more. You may also want to go out together, like on a double date
with you, him, your guy friends and their girlfreinds if they have them. As far as the pregency goes. Congrats! This might be EXACTLY what you two need to pull your relationship back tighter. When you feel the time is right, tell him you think you might be pregnant, I'm positive he will be happy to be a dad. =] Best luck with your baby and
boyfriend!
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Your Problem-- My boyfriend is going off to basic training for the military in a week and I want to get him something but I have no idea what!
My Advice-- Okay, what I advise you to do is think of something that would mean something special to the both of you, maybe something you could buy to reflect an inside joke you've had or something to remind you both of a romantic date you once had, something that would mean the world to him and reflect your memories. :]
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Your Problem-- Well, I've been in love with this guy for about 2 years now... we used to date on and off for about 1 and 1/2 yrs. we NEVER went like more than 2-3 weeks without getting back together, but we finally had enough of eachother about 4-5 months ago... ever since we stopped talking I've realized how wonderful he really, truely is... and how much of a bad girlfriend I used to be to him. the bad thing now is that he's with someone else. they've been kind of off and on for about 2-3 months now I THINK? but anyway, I found out he told her he loved her, and that's the 1st person he's said that to since me. I'm really hurt right now and I need some advice on whether to wait around because I love him that much... or to try my HARDEST to move on.
My Advice-- My best advice for you is to talk it out with him. Ask him if he still feels the same way he used to. Explain to him that you miss him A LOT, and you didn't mean to be the way you were. If he truely does love the girl that he is with now and doesn't have any intrest of getting back together, then that is when you need to try your hardest to move on! but I don't think you should try to move on quite yet without finding out first if he still cares about you or not. So, ask him how he feels first, then tell him how you feel. Don't get discouraged if he says he "loves" his new girlfriend, because it sounds like you two have true love and true love NEVER dies. I hope this helps & all works out for you! <3
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Your Problem-- I like this boy. But I haven't seen him in like 3 years. So. The first day of summer this year I called him and we talked and all. Well. After I hung up I relized I liked him even more than I did before. I want to ask him out. What should I do? Should I call him and ask him out or should I write him a letter?
My Advice-- Ok, I'd advise you to call him and ask him out, that way you will know how he reacts. But really, it depends more on your personal choice, you have to figure out if you are better expressing your feelings on paper or in voice, right then, on the spot. I'd advise you to do whatever you feel mopre comfortable with because that will get the best outcome.
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Your Problem-- First off I'd like to say that I’m not the kind of person to get all that worked up over crushes but there is a guy that I can’t get out of my head. Recently he has hurt himself over another girl that he has a crush on though and even though I can’t agree with what he did I still love him to death. I try to be there for him the best that I can when something is wrong and I would do anything for him but he doesn’t even think twice about me. I want to tell him how I feel but I don’t know if that would be the right thing to do or if he’s even worth it.
My Advice-- My advice is to decide if he is really worth all these sad feelings your having, if he is worth it, you need to come out and tell him how you feel. Telling him is WAY better than never telling him and never finding out weather there was a chance that you two could be together. You might want to consider waiting a little while for him to get over the other girl, just guide him through his rough time, no matter what, be a good friend to him always. Then, when the time is right, tell him how you feel. Hope this helps! <3
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Your Problem-- There'sthis guy I've liked ever since the second day of school because hewasn't there the first day lol back to the point. I keep thinking abouthim and want to tell him I like him but I'm too quiet and shy. He'salways going out with someone though which sucks. My friend told methat he likes me and stuff but idk what to do.
My Advice-- Myadvice is to try flirting with him a little bit, try getting him tonotice you more, and when he becomes single, tell him you like him, orget your best friend to. trust me, telling him is much better than notknowing how he feels. even if you don't get the outcome you want,that's just more reason to tell him, because you don't want to lovesomeone who doesn't feel the way you do. don't spend your life waitingon him to make a move, half the time they feel just like you and waitfor YOU to make the move. Talk to him more, get to be good friends, getover your shyness and quietness a bit, wait till he's single, and tellhim how you feel. You'll never know how he feels until you tell him howyou feel =]
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Your Problem-- My boyfriend and I have been together for 5 years and I was REALLY REALLY REALLY happy until about
3weeks ago. He has started controlling me. Telling me he doesn't want meto go hangout with my guy friends or talk to them on the phone oranything to do with them. My guy friends are getting agrevated at meand I think I might be pregnant and I want him to be like he used to be
and get in a father type way and get ready for our baby.
My Advice-- Sometimes all guys need is a little self assurance. Tell him HE is the onlyguy for you, and that all those other guys are just friends! Try totell him how much he means to you, he needs to hear that. Also give himthe accasional "I love you." more. You may also want to go outtogether, like on a double date with you, him, your guy friends andtheir girlfreinds if they have them. As far as the pregency goes.Congrats! This might be EXACTLY what you two need to pull yourrelationship back tighter. When you feel the time is right, tell himyou think you might be pregnant, I'm positive he will be happy to be adad. =] Best luck with your baby and
boyfriend!
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Your Problem-- My boyfriend is going off to basic training for the military in a week and I want to get him something but I have no idea what!
My Advice-- Okay,what I advise you to do is think of something that would mean somethingspecial to the both of you, maybe something you could buy to reflect aninside joke you've had or something to remind you both of a romanticdate you once had, something that would mean the world to him andreflect your memories. :]
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Your Problem-- Well,I've been in love with this guy for about 2 years now... we used todate on and off for about 1 and 1/2 yrs. we NEVER went like more than2-3 weeks without getting back together, but we finally had enough ofeachother about 4-5 months ago... ever since we stopped talking I'verealized how wonderful he really, truely is... and how much of a badgirlfriend I used to be to him. the bad thing now is that he's withsomeone else. they've been kind of off and on for about 2-3 months nowI THINK? but anyway, I found out he told her he loved her, and that'sthe 1st person he's said that to since me. I'm really hurt right nowand I need some advice on whether to wait around because I love himthat much... or to try my HARDEST to move on.
My Advice-- Mybest advice for you is to talk it out with him. Ask him if he stillfeels the same way he used to. Explain to him that you miss him A LOT,and you didn't mean to be the way you were. If he truely does love thegirl that he is with now and doesn't have any intrest of getting backtogether, then that is when you need to try your hardest to move on!but I don't think you should try to move on quite yet without findingout first if he still cares about you or not. So, ask him how he feelsfirst, then tell him how you feel. Don't get discouraged if he says he"loves" his new girlfriend, because it sounds like you two have truelove and true love NEVER dies. I hope this helps & all works outfor you! <3
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Your Problem-- Ilike this boy. But I haven't seen him in like 3 years. So. The firstday of summer this year I called him and we talked and all. Well. AfterI hung up I relized I liked him even more than I did before. I want toask him out. What should I do? Should I call him and ask him out orshould I write him a letter?
My Advice-- Ok,I'd advise you to call him and ask him out, that way you will know howhe reacts. But really, it depends more on your personal choice, youhave to figure out if you are better expressing your feelings on paperor in voice, right then, on the spot. I'd advise you to do whatever youfeel mopre comfortable with because that will get the best outcome.
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Your Problem-- -My best friend tara is like my best best best friend & i tell her anything. and now that kylie came into the picture [kylie is both of our best friends] in school, she like ignores me in history class. but then when kylie isnt around her, she talks to me. but when she is she completely ignores me. & i told her that & she said that the only reason is b/c she only sees kylie during history, but she does it to me in the hallways too.. and we NEVER, EVER not told eachother the secrets that our friends told us. cause we tell everything, and she won't tell me this secret kylie told her. & its getting on my nerves because.. ever since kylies been here, she's been ignoring me more & more.
My Advice-- Sometimes friends forget the person that has always been there by their side forever, it shoudn't be
this way, but sadly, sometimes it is. You need to talk to your best friend, grab her by the shoulders and shake her if you have to! Whatever gets her to pay attention. Tell her that you are really sad and agrevated over her ignoring you, tell her to remember the person that has always been there for her through thick and thin and tell her that she is your best friend but she is hurting your feelings badly! If you tell her that and you explain that she means the world to you and you don't like her hurting you, then she should be a friend, step up, and apologize. Best wishes!
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